In our final virtual support group meeting, I wanted to talk about paradox. I wanted to talk about the tensions inherent in having a cancer diagnosis, ranging from:
“My family is always asking me how I’m doing” <—–> “My family doesn’t REALLY want the whole picture”
To the currently relevant:
“I have to be physically distanced for my health” <—> “I need human contact for my health”.
But, honestly, the group had no interest in practicing philosophy: they wanted to talk about real life. Participants shared about growing fears around previously regular tasks like picking children up from school, making social visits, and the life-threatening gravity of these choices–we aren’t debating which candy to buy here, we are talking about Health with a capital H.
Perhaps you, the reader, can relate, for yourself or a loved one. Perhaps you felt this way weeks ago and now–in isolation, no more school pick-ups–you feel a new way now. If you are connected to social media, by now you may have seen posts about staying connected, including free resources online for meditation and similar offerings. From us at Caring Connection to you, our goal today is to give YOU the power to control what you can control: social support. We hope to empower you to find supports that you, as a person impacted by cancer, need to maintain your relational wellbeing in a time of isolation.
What’s relational wellbeing? It is the part of us that needs to be with others, needs to be heard, needs to be seen and valued. It is the opposite of loneliness. Some people need many relationships and social contact for this part of wellbeing–some need less. The important part is that you get what you need.
- For some people, relational wellbeing requires one-on-one support. We share opportunities for mentorship.
- For others, it requires lots of voices and diversity of thoughts. We share opportunities for support groups.
- For yet more, it requires a opportunity to think things through. We share opportunities for group forums.
I am going to give you a link to a large, intimidating spreadsheet. Take a deep breath. It is okay–the technology will not hurt you, and it has the opportunity to help you. I challenge you, out of the whole list: try just 5 links. If you can’t find a support group that works for you, you need the list in a different format, or you need support understanding what’s on the list in the first place, reach out to our Social Workers for one-on-one guidance navigating the list. This is something we want to help you with!
We wish each and every one of you as many forms of wellbeing as possible in this challenging time. We at Caring Connection cannot control Covid-19, but we hope to empower (give YOU the power) to control your social connection and relational wellbeing with totally free, totally remote support opportunities.
We are with you in heart, mind, and spirit.